Last September we did something we had never done before as a family. We went into a shoe store and all walked out with new shoes. We have mostly bought secondhand for the kids shoes in the past because there have been plenty of really good gently used shoes available. Now, we have walked into a new season when finding those good used shoes have been more difficult. So, we did what we had to, and bought new. My daughter had been wearing these bright pink running shoes everyday for what felt like a year. Even in the summer I tried to persuade her to wear her sandals. Nope, it was those pink shoes everyday. Or bare feet. Those pink shoes were size 8. What size boots did we walk out of the store with? Size 11! My son was the same way. He never wore a size 12 but went right from 11 to 13. Today, as I was thinking about buying some shoes for spring, I checked their toes in those not even five month shoes, and yes, my daughters toes were right to the edge! My children are really growing and they are really changing.
I see it in the too tight shoes and the pants that are all of a sudden two inches too short.
I see it in understanding they did not have before.
I see it in their questions or comments as we go about our day.
I see it in how they can talk to adults when before they would cling to my side.
As mamas we observe time not in minutes or hours, although we of course take note of those, but in the changes in our children. In the first steps, the first word, and then in the first time they write their name. We witness these firsts, these tiny miracles to parents, and then notice other changes in them, and these mark the passing of time. Was it not just yesterday we were doing everything for them?
My first born will be seven tomorrow! His birthday is first and then his sister’s will be in a few months. It is in these months I notice how much they have grown more than any other time. I of course get all sappy and sentimental. My husband and I get older and I barely feel like I have turned thirty or that time has really passed. This week in my children, I see change physically, socially and mentally. I layed in bed during our rest time last week and recalled a conversation from a year ago. A lady was telling me how there are bigger princess dresses for five year old girls. My daughter was three at the time, so five felt far away. After all, her brother was five! Addie will now be five in May.
Times passes. As we go from day to day, we can think that not much is changing. We can question if our children are really listening to us? Are they learning anything? Then, you see a picture or watch a old video from years ago (Yes, I have done that. Nothing beats my daughter’s slow walking chubby legs. ) and then you look at your right now child and the change is so obvious.
Our kids are really gaining understanding.
Our kids are really listening to us…sometimes.
Our child will move past that really annoying character trait or learn how to have more self-control.
They will grow up.
It will happen. We can really rest in today, the present and enjoy our children as they are. I pray for great grace for all who read this to do just that. As we plant seeds daily, that we don’t see right then, we can know they will flourish.
And that goes for us too.